# How to Add a Fifth Guy to the Guys Trip Without Wrecking the Weekend *By James Hills — Updated June 2026* Most annual guys trips run on the same roster for years - the golf crew, the college buddies, the guys from work. Then someone drops out, or that four-bedroom house at the Jersey shore splits a lot better six ways than five, and suddenly you're bringing in a guy nobody but one person really knows. Handled right, the new guy makes the trip better and cheaper. Handled wrong, he's the reason half the group rides home in a separate text thread. **Questions****The Six Things to Square Away Before He's In****Article Index** ** No answer selected. Please try again. Please select either existing option or enter your own, however not both. Please select minimum {0} answer(s). Please select maximum {0} answer(s). /polls/travel-and-trip-ideas/what-do-you-prefer-to-call-your-guys-trips.html?task=poll.vote&format=json 1 Guys Trips (567 votes / 44.16%) 44.16% votes Guys Getaways (130 votes / 10.12%) 10.12% votes Mancations (118 votes / 9.19%) 9.19% votes Brocations (167 votes / 13.01%) 13.01% votes [{"id":5,"title":"Guys Weekends","votes":302,"type":"x","order":1,"pct":23.519999999999999573674358543939888477325439453125,"resources":[]},{"id":6,"title":"Guys Trips","votes":567,"type":"x","order":2,"pct":44.159999999999996589394868351519107818603515625,"resources":[]},{"id":7,"title":"Guys Getaways","votes":130,"type":"x","order":3,"pct":10.1199999999999992184029906638897955417633056640625,"resources":[]},{"id":8,"title":"Mancations","votes":118,"type":"x","order":4,"pct":9.1899999999999995026200849679298698902130126953125,"resources":[]},{"id":9,"title":"Brocations","votes":167,"type":"x","order":5,"pct":13.0099999999999997868371792719699442386627197265625,"resources":[]}] ["#ff5b00","#4ac0f2","#b80028","#eef66c","#60bb22","#b96a9a","#62c2cc"] ["rgba(255,91,0,0.7)","rgba(74,192,242,0.7)","rgba(184,0,40,0.7)","rgba(238,246,108,0.7)","rgba(96,187,34,0.7)","rgba(185,106,154,0.7)","rgba(98,194,204,0.7)"] 350 ** Vote Now** Vote Form** ResultVotes Adding a guy to a locked-in group is mostly a logistics and chemistry problem, not a safety one. Settle these before you offer him the spot. - The friend vouching for him is doing your vetting - ask him the blunt questions you can't ask the new guy yet. - Money is the real security: collect his share of the deposit before the spot is his, not after. - Rooming makes or breaks the weekend, so figure out who shares, who snores, and who gets the pull-out before anyone packs. - Tell him what kind of trip this is so a cards-and-cigars guy doesn't show up expecting a 7 a.m. tee time. - Give him one real job on the trip so he arrives invested instead of standing around like a guest. 1. [Start With the Guy Who Vouched for Him](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#start-with-the-guy-who-vouched-for-him) 2. [Get the Crew on Board Before You Offer Him the Spot](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#get-the-crew-on-board-before-you-offer-him-the-spot) 3. [Settle the Money Before He's In](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#settle-the-money-before-hes-in) 4. [Tell Him What Kind of Trip He's Signing Up For](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#tell-him-what-kind-of-trip-hes-signing-up-for) 5. [Sort the Sleeping Arrangements Early](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#sort-the-sleeping-arrangements-early) 6. [Go Easy on the Banter Until You Know Him](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#go-easy-on-the-banter-until-you-know-him) 7. [Turn the New Guy Into Someone You'll Invite Back](https://www.mantripping.com/travel/how-to-stay-safe-and-secure-when-you-invite-a-new-guy-to-join-your-annual-guys-trip.html#turn-the-new-guy-into-someone-youll-invite-back) Here's the rule I've watched hold up on every trip that survived a new addition: whoever brings the new guy owns the new guy. If the fifth guy turns out to be a problem - he's cheap, he's loud, he vanishes for six hours - the friend who invited him handles it, not the group. Agree on that before anyone's name goes on the rental. 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Have you traveled together, or just grabbed beers after work? Does he pay people back? A buddy who hesitates on any of those just answered the question. If you want a feel for the guy beforehand, his social media tells you plenty - what he's into, whether your humor lines up, the kind of weekend he posts about. That's reconnaissance for fit, not a criminal-records search. If someone you trust already wants him on the trip, you're well past the question of whether he's dangerous. ### Get the Crew on Board Before You Offer Him the Spot Never promise a guy a seat before the group has signed off. Float it first: "Dave wants to bring his brother-in-law to make the house math work - everybody good with that?" 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A clean yes from the group - same as you'd want before adding someone to a buddy's [bachelor party](https://www.mantripping.com/bachelor-party-ideas.html) - means he walks in as a full member of the trip instead of a tagalong somebody's tolerating. ### Settle the Money Before He's In This is the security that actually matters on a [guys trip](https://www.mantripping.com/guys-trip.html). The new guy's spot becomes real when his share of the deposit hits the group Venmo - not when he says he's in. People flake, and a flake who already cost you the cancellation window is worse than an empty bunk. Lay out the full number up front: the house, the boat or tee times, the group dinners, whatever's getting split. A guy who's only ever traveled solo may not realize a beach-house weekend can run a few hundred dollars a head before he's bought a single beer. Better he knows that now than gets sticker shock at the door and starts nickel-and-diming everyone all weekend. 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While you're at it, leave the basics with someone back home: the rental address, the dates, a group thread with everyone's number. That's not paranoia, it's what you'd do for any trip. ### Sort the Sleeping Arrangements Early Rooming is the thing groups put off until everyone's standing in the kitchen at midnight, and it's the thing most likely to sour a shared-house weekend. Handle it before anyone packs. The new guy is the obvious candidate for the pull-out or the odd bunk - just say so up front instead of letting it become an awkward discovery. Match people on the real stuff. Put the snorer with the heaviest sleeper. Don't bunk the 6 a.m. runner with the guy rolling in at 3. And build in a little privacy - even with lifelong friends, a guy who never gets ten minutes to himself gets short by day three. ### Go Easy on the Banter Until You Know Him Every established group has its own language - the nicknames, the running jokes, the insults that pass for affection. 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